Sheila M. McNeill
August 1st, 2007 Several years ago, Sheila M. McNeill was the guest speaker at Navy Command Master Chief Royal Weaver’s retirement ceremony. Recently, she was the speaker for her second change of command ceremony at Kings Bay Naval Submarine Base. Performing such public ceremonial services is no small matter in military circles; these rituals are highly regarded and highly visible. “You’re the one I want,” Commander Jon Hagemann told her when Sheila asked him if he was sure he didn’t want a military speaker.
So who is this Sheila McNeill, so sought after and respected in U.S. Navy life here in St. Marys? Well, where to begin? Local businesswoman and community volunteer? Or, try this on for size––past National President of the Navy League of the United States.
No matter how you excavate Sheila’s life, treasure is your certain reward. In the words of the editor of Sea Power, she is “in a league of her own” . . . and richly deserves to
be. At the Navy League’s 2005 Sea-Air-Space (SAS) Exposition in Washington D.C., no less a military leader than General Richard B. Myers, then chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, honored her as she completed her two-year tenure as national president. As did Chief of Naval Operations Admiral Vern Clark who said, “You have set the bar high . . . . I will go just about anywhere with people like you. Please know that this sailor greatly appreciates all you do to support the sons and daughters of America.” The chairman of the proceedings then introduced Sheila as “the tigress of the Navy League” and emphasized her “charismatic” leadership.
Sheila’s journey to a position of national leadership had its roots in local community. In the 1960s she became interested in the work of the Navy League through her husband Arlie, a Navy veteran, and longtime League member. The mission of this civilian organization captured her imagination and, before long, her heart as well. The core commitment of the Navy League is, in Sheila’s words, its “niche in the world of Washington is our lobbying for platform and maintenance issues.” In other words, looking after the needs of the vessels themselves and their crews—whether these are fighter jets, submarines, or aircraft carriers—is the hallmark of the Navy League’s endeavor.
She became very active in the local Navy League Council and says, with some degree of satisfaction and a whole lot of modesty, that she eventually was elected council president, the first female to lead the Navy League at Kings Bay. As the years passed, she followed her husband’s path as regional and state president, and along the way chaired a committee to establish a submarine maritime museum in St. Marys.
Her rise to national leadership and its ancillary story as the only woman to progress through the highest echelons of Navy League leadership is a testimonial to her passionate concern for the quality of life of the men and women who serve their country, often at great sacrifice. These elected positions, as she moved her way up the hierarchy of national office, required mounting a campaign and also meant that she had to use her own resources and those so generously given by her adopted community of St. Marys. “I was just overwhelmed by the local support. When the national presidency was at stake, St. Marys citizens would hand deliver checks to me along with their good wishes and smiles of encouragement.”
Sheila’s first taste of national level service came as one of ten vice presidents, a position entirely subsidized on her own dime; reimbursement for travel is only available to the president. And
yet she made 50 visits to DC for legislative lobby efforts, doing the job with which she had been entrusted. She was nominated by the Navy to serve on the Defense Advisory Committee on Women in the Services––an appointment that “profoundly changed my life,” she confesses. She saw first hand the needs of the military and the work the Navy League could do on their behalf. It was after this three- year experience of travel and information immersion at the highest level that she knew she had to do something with this newfound knowledge––she decided to run for the office of national president.
And run she did, in the face of a great deal of reservation and consternation from the purveyors of conventional wisdom about gender and suitability of candidacy. After her election, during
a local Kings Bay gathering in a friend’s home in St. Marys, a gentleman acquaintance commented, “So, Sheila, they’re putting the future of the Navy League in a woman’s hands? Good for them!”
And good for Sheila! Her home in Brunswick, Georgia, is now a remarkable depository of memorabilia of those two years as national president. During her travels she exchanged commander’s coins with over 200 heads of state, ambassadors, and base officers all over the world. These custom-designed coins are permanently captured between two pieces of glass and now do proud duty as the surface top of her family room coffee table. A charming side note: In Spain she met John Graham, a member of the Moody Blues, the 60s rock band that gave us Knights in White Satin. Why? Because he just happened to be the council president in Spain.
Sheila’s other abiding passion is the community of St. Marys itself. As a local businesswoman, she is the proprietor of Sheila’s Hallmark in the Kings Bay Village Shopping Center. The store was established 24 years ago, and in 1986, Sheila implemented a “military card and gift service.” This concept makes the Hallmark distribution center a little nuts, she admits, but what she does is stock out-of-season cards and gifts so that families can make purchases prior to patrol regardless of the time of year. Shipping out in October? No problem. Sheila has Valentine cards ready for selection . . . and she keeps them and ensures that they are mailed to loved ones on the appropriate day . . . on time, in season delivery! “There is something so special about receiving a card in the mail when you know your husband or son is in the middle of the ocean or who knows where,” she says with a satisfied twinkle in her eye.
Recently Sheila was invited to serve as the commencement speaker at Thomas University. Among the many insights she shared with these new graduates was the citation of a familiar quotation: “Life is measured not by the number of breaths you take but by the moments that take your breath away.” This creed was her family benchmark as she and Arlie raised their daughter Leslie. Now, Sheila continues to share her love of life and her vision of service and
commitment with her grandchildren, Ryan and Norah. She believes “there are moments that make you glad to be alive, that make you proud, that allow you to feel God’s presence in a very real way.” And so she reminded those Thomas University students, “Work to make sure those moments are rightfully yours.” Now that’s a way of living on Planet Earth that Sheila M. McNeill can tell you about; she’s an expert.